Thursday, October 6, 2011

A smile can really set anything right!

Had an awesome experience while driving today…
Generally while driving, I become very impatient. I just hate it when people drive their vehicles in the middle of the road and that too at a speed that you feel like they are almost carrying their vehicles (and not vice versa!) And the worst is when you honk them, they just do not move, they just do not want to move.

Similar incident happened with me today morning which is nothing unusual actually. But the way I dealt with it was unusual. I was already late for office and was driving as fast as the traffic allowed me and then, suddenly I had to almost pause! My speed went to 20 from 60 because of an uncle who was driving his scooter just in the middle of the road. And there was no chance for me to overtake him. After getting tired of following him, I honked at him twice but he did not move… then I honked hard again, he looked behind and gave me a very bad glance… Normally, at such moments I just lose my temper but then, today I was in a great mood (the reason for that was a different story)…  so, I remained calm for 2 mins, thought may be after sometime he will move to his left side where there was a lot of space for him! But the the hero on the scooter was stubborn and refused to leave a way for me.
Then I just lost it and started honking continuously and did that for about 2 mins till I made him lose his mind… As a result, he moved to the side finally and looked at me with such a great annoyance and said with a very loud voice “baap ka horn hai kya? (is it your father’s horn?)” Normally if someone speaks to me in such a tone and with such derogatory words, I park my car to the side and give them a piece of my mind! But as I mentioned above, I was in an amazing mood so don’t know but the answer which came to my mind was so impulsive and witty that even I was stunned at my spontaneity. I made my windows little down and said “arre haannnn papa ka hi hai, aapko kaise pata chala… (yes, its of my father… how come you know?)” And I smiled and showed him a thumps up and just moved on…

Then we met on the next signal. I dint want to see that man again because I was sure for what I did, he would come and shout at me… And I was in no mood for getting into a clash

But then what happened was nice. He just came next to my car and looked at me and said Sorry!
I was simply amazed. Normally, in such situations, I end up shouting or getting into arguments or sometimes, even getting into a conflict with people. But in this case what happened was completely reversed.

I looked at him, smiled and said sorry too…

So, now this is how I am going to tackle all my future traffic/ driving clashes… with a smileJ
See, I have got one more story to establish my point that a smile can set anything right…

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

What is Perfect: Being Perfect or Imperfect!!!

One day I was just pondering my head in deciding whether I am a perfect person or an imperfect one! I don’t know why I was getting into it but yes, I really wanted to know. There were many parameters which could help me to reach the conclusion! I mean like the way I handle my house, the way I handle my office, the way I manage to create a balance between both! But before I start giving scores in different depts, shouldn’t I try to understand the meaning of being perfect.
Though there is no ‘perfect’ definition of being perfect but still thinking in a layman’s term, it can be depicted as “somebody who never did, never does and will never do anything wrong!” which means perfection should be there all through from past, to present and also, should be there in future.
Ok, so if I take in terms of ‘never did’, I am ruled out completely in first occurrence itself! I am not perfect! I mean everyone, I assume would have done mistakes at one or the other point of time. I have committed all sort of mistakes from small mistakes like spilling something which was meant to be for guests to big ones like hurting someone….So, that was about past… I am failedL

Now coming to present and future (want to finish them together), guess it’s the same story. Daily I commit one or the other mistake. It just happens. And for future, I just can’t promise not to do any mistake because they are something which happens unknowingly. You just do them and then later realize that what you did was wrong! So saying this, even the slightest chance of becoming perfect in future is buried!

But then when I think about giving myself scores in different walks of life, I think I get somewhere close to perfection. Because I know I try to do everything correct, be it for my family, my home, my work, my office and everything. I try my level best to do everything with perfection.
Also, just think if one becomes perfect, how boring the life will become. There will no fun, no learning at all… That’s what I believe. Because when you are perfect, it means you are at the acme of everything. There is no vacuum to be filled. You already know all that one got to know...

And I believe its mistakes and blunders from which a person learns the most. And if you stop learning, it means you are on the verge of becoming a corpse! This process of learning is very interesting and its fun… and I suppose it gradually makes a person mature. But if you are perfect, there will be no way to be covered, there will be no destination to be reached, there will be no mistakes to be corrected, there will be no learning to get!

So, be happy and be confident for what you are… Its completely perfect to be imperfect…
And at the end, keep smiling:O

Saturday, October 1, 2011

A trip to Kurnool!

I went to a town called Kurnool few days back for some office work… The plan made was so sudden that I just dint get time to book a ticket for train so I thought why not to go via bus! Because it has also been ages since I had travelled by this fantastic mode of conveyance (yes, it is fantastic if you know how to enjoy it!). So I took a bus at around 4.30 am and started my journey. I thought I would sleep on the way but I couldn’t because the beauty on the way dint let me sleep even for a single second. I was awake for the whole way and was appreciating the greenery and beauty around!
This is one of best things about south India. It’s Green. Once you are out of the premises of a city, all you will see is different versions of green colors. You don’t get to see it in Northern part as may be its too crowded or should I say too commercialized! Whatever…
I reached Kurnool at around 10 am. I liked everything about the place. I mean yeah it’s a small town but still, the simplicity of small towns is what attracts me, fascinates me! Everybody is so down to earth, modest in such places. This is what is amazing about small places. Everything looks beautiful as everything is simple…

I don’t know the local language of AP which is Telugu. It is quite manageable in cities like Hyderabad if one is ignorant of the native language but in small towns, it can really be a challenge to cop up with it… But then, you know there is one thing which is common in all the languages, you just have to use it and everything falls in place automatically and that is a Smile, a genuine smileJ. You really don’t need any words if you can afford to carry it for everybodyJ
Believe me! It can work wonders… There, whenever anybody used to say anything in Telugu, I used to simply smile genuinely and people used to understand that she doesn’t know Telugu but at the same time, my smile also used to manage to put an image of mine in their minds. They got to know me and then, it all went so easy! Without saying a single word, people started recognizing me and then, all I could see everywhere were smiling faces. They all were smiling at me… Where ever I was going, people were greeting me with a smile and all those beautiful smiles dint let me feel like an outsider even for a single second. What a pleasure!

What else you need?
When I was young, I had a poster which said:

Smile in trouble,
Smile in pain,
Smile when the tears pour like rain,
Smile when someone hurts your feelings
As you know smile is always healing!!!

Do I need to say anything else…Nahhhhh, I dont think so! 

Keep smiling forever and ever and everJJJ It really has the power to set things right…

Happy October!!!

I am sure the weirdness of the title would have astonished you… I got it from one of my friend. He never wishes anybody with a hi or a hello. His wishing style is unlike the usual style of wishing somebody when you meet him/her.  

When he meets somebody, he greets that person saying: Happy Monday, Happy Tuesday and so onJ and this chain only gets broken on the first of every month. On 1st, he greets people saying: Happy January, Happy February and so on… Isn’t it so different and so nice! I mean in just 2 words, he actually conveys so many things to a person: a hi, a wish for having a nice day, it surely makes a person smile, it surely gives a person happiness maybe just for 2 minsJ But isn’t those 2 mins far better than 2 mins of “no emotions”… What do you think?
Also, why not to celebrate each and every day of life! Why just to wish a Happy New Year, A Happy Diwali, A Happy Holi, A Happy Eid, A Merry Christmas?? Why not to change everyday into a festival by wishing every day as a Happy day...J
Seeing him, even I have started wishing people as “Happy Monday”, “Happy Tuesday” etc! People gets shocked in the first instance but then, I know they like it somewhereJ and gradually, they also start wishing me in the same style. That’s the effect this amazing greeting style has on people…

So, go ahead and give a person a smile for 2 mins… and yes, you don’t forget to smile as well…

Keep Smiling forever and ever and ever…JJJ