Saturday, November 19, 2011

Speed of time changes with time???

Its mid of Nov’ 2011… Feel like just few days back, I celebrated the New Year and welcomed 2011! Just few days back, 2011 was an adolescent and suddenly, I realized that it had already become old and is on the verge of succumbing! And I started mulling over my head in thinking when did it passed through all the phases? Where was I when the transformation of this year was happening from a baby to a teenager, then a youth, then an adult and now, when its old, I suddenly realized!

Where was I???  What was I doing???

Arghhh!!!!…. Can’t get a detailed answer… all I could remember is I was too busy with my work, with my career, with my life! But that time, little did I realized, I was losing a precious year from my life which can never ever be compensated or reimbursed whatever I do!

Gone are the school days when years never used to pass so rapidly! Forget Years, days never used to pass so easily! We used to think, crib every day why the academic year is not moving quickly… We also had a rush to reach to the next standard. But in those days, time used to pass like hell… Literally, we used to count each and every day! Now, I speculate how come the time has started flying away these days so swiftly that counting the days is far apart, we are not even able to count the years!!

In school, a single day used to look so extended. And in that one single day, we used to finish so much work… starting from going to school and tuitions, playing games, spending time with friends and family, watching TV, finishing homework, finishing all the meals properly and even after doing so much in 1 day, we used to get at least 8-10 hours for a astound and relaxing sleep! I mean now, it all looks like something which is impossible, something unattainable…

Now sleep is a luxury! Playing games is a treat! Spending time with friends is now limited to some weekends, spending time with the family is something which depends completely on chance, Watching TV is what we manage to do while doing other important work and meals: it’s a lavishness

Life now seems to be running! And we: we are running behind it, chasing it, trying to catch up with it and in all this running and scampering  we are forgetting everything around us! Bizarre!

But why are we running behind life, what is that which is compelling us to do that, what is that which is making us forget everything? Don’t know… I just know whatever it is was not there when we were young! And that is why we used to get time for everything…

Wish I could bring back that time, wish I could bring back that life, Wish I could do everything which I used to do in my adolescent age! Wish I could again afford to be careless, Wish I could enjoy each and every second of the day, wish I had time daily to spend with my friends, wish I still had maa-paa to take care of me and everything around me, wish I still had time to fight with my siblings, wish I had no tensions, no stress, wish life could appear as simple as it used to, wish I had never ever got introduced to all the tensions and stress, wish I had never got acquainted to the hurdles and real life, wish I could just and just enjoyyyyy…  

As a child, I used to think when will I grow up and now, I wish I could again become a child! Remembering the old saying that the grass is always green on the other side! I don’t know about this side but yes, it is always green and fresh at the other end!

But keep smiling alwazzzzz whatever it isJJJ because Life is definitely beautiful….

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Why do most of us live as if we'r never gonna die???

Sometimes I wonder how we humans actually live! I mean  isn’t it that we all live as if we are never going to die and then, we just die having never really lived! While alive, we do not understand the value of breaths which we take every second which keeps us in motion!!  Strange? Isn’t it? Only that person who is on the verge of dying counts his breaths, he is the one who actually knows the real worth of life, who only and only wishes for thing and that is: one more breath, one more and one more…
But its really weird and sad that we do not even have time these days to think about how are we spending this precious gift from God! We all are too busy in collecting money, luxuries and other materialistic things! Little do we realize that all the materialistic things are not going to be there forever, and also, how true is that ripened adage which almost every saffron clothes wearing sadhu repeat in almost all his satsangs, which is too boring to repeat but still I will reiterate it just for the sake of its relevance here and that is ‘we are not going to take any of these materialistic things with us to heaven, then why to waste time in collecting these affluences!’ To say further, I believe that it’s only happiness and satisfaction which our soul carries after our death! So, why not we try to attain that one thing rather than running behind things which are unachievable! I am, definitely not saying that one should become completely unambitious, unmotivated in life! No! One should never sit with content till last breath… One should keep on working till his/her body allows to! My only point is that in achieving that success, those ambitions, do not forget that you also have a life! Do not sacrifice any and every thing to get your goals! And the easiest victim which gets sacrificed in this entire course is your happiness! Do give all the luxuries, all the comfort to your family but also give your time to them… This is more precious than all the materialistic things you provide to them!

The person who loses happiness in life is the biggest loser! He is somebody who will have nothing good to remember at the last stage of his life! And then he will realize what he gained and what he lost! But at that time, it would have become too late! Because time lost is lost forever. It can never come back, may whatever you do!

So, try to create a fine balance between all the aspects of life and then, you will be able to make your life perfect to a great extent and yes, you will surely have some amazing moments to remember at the last stage of your life which will make you smile even in those most painful times of your life when you know you will have to leave this world any time!!!

And so, keep smiling forever and ever and everJJJ

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Magic of Mayawati's Maya in Indian Grand Prix!

There were few of my friends who were lucky enough to have a lifetime experience of F1 Race. Frankly speaking, I just had a fair idea of what actually F1 is and nothing more than that… <bad on my part!!!>

Anyways, so they described the whole scene there and believe me, they all went gaga over it. The way they described it, even I could imagine that it would have been an astounding and marvelous thing to watch. They and off course all the people going there would have never imagined that it will be so fantastic and incredible. According to them, the Budh International Circuit was something which can easily pass any International standards.

Everybody who went to see this race would have gone there with a doubt, would have been little skeptic and actually, would have been expecting some flaws: little or big! But it all went so well that people came out happy and praising!

But whatever you do: there are always few people who are always there to criticize. They are capable of finding faults in any and every thing. I heard in some news channel somebody was cribbing over the millions spent over building the infrastructure! According to the critics, why to spend so much on a sport because we have so many poor people starving!

I really felt like getting into the television and asking these morons that what have they done to help the needy people? And also, if spending on this sport was a wastage then I think, spending on any sport is a wastage! Be it the biggest one of all called Cricket! We all will not die if we will not host any of the cricket matches! But then there are few things which are important for a country to do place itself on the world map! And I guess F1 was one of them!

And yes, there were some critics who bought the CWG thing in between saying, have we forgotten what happened then, so how can we again take chance? So, want to tell them, are we not going to host any games in future because of the CWG incident. Should we stop organizing all the sports because we are scared of some greedy and dumb politicians? Should we? No…

India has proved that they have the capacity and capability to deliver whatever big projects comes to us! And no doubt, this time the credit goes completely to Mayawati. Hats off to her. Now even if she places her statues all over India, nobody would mind. Despite several apprehensions in the wake of the bad experience of CWG last year that attracted a lot of criticism, this international event was flawlessly executed and successfully delivered!

I even read somewhere that Mayawati takes a cut in every deal cleared for her state… But does that matter… Atleast she delivered what was expected.. Infact she delivered more than expectations!! Then, why shouldn’t we appreciate her? Its ok if she or her relatives have taken cuts in building up this BIC.  Nobody minded or will mind! Because everyone is happy with the results not like CWG, where politicians have eaten a whole lot of amount of money and even then, didn’t deliver anything! It was such a disgrace that people of India would never ever forget it!!!
Anyways, so its time for us Indians to feel proud of having delivered such a big event with such a remarkable success!!!J

Keep smiling alwaz!

Too many scared cows in the land of warriors!!!

Was reading an article on NDTV site few minutes back and was disturbed like anything after finishing it! A man was set on fire by some goons over property dispute! But the worst part of the whole incident was that the crowd there simply stood and watched the whole episode mutely! The man kept on screaming and scrambling around, at the centre of a ring of people!!! But the people there, dint do anything to save his life! Horrible!

This is 2nd case in just a week where some atrocity, some brutality happened to a person in front of a crowd and instead of helping the victim, people stood and looked at the whole incident happening!
I am surprised and even shocked that the citizens of our country have become so selfish that they do not want to get into something which is not related to them or which is not affecting them in any way! But the question here is that is there a guarantee that this cannot happen to them or their dear ones? No there is no guarantee in this gunda raaj. It can happen to anyone anywhere! But if we start helping each other, definitely the number of such incidents can decrease. How come people have become so merciless, so heartless that they are ready to witness a man on fire but are not ready to help him! Guess we Indians are forgetting that there is a thing called humanity in this world and it makes us bound to help each other!

Our society is gradually transforming into a bunch of sacred cows and nothing else! Gone are the days when this land used to be the land of warriors and fighters!

Recalling a story which a friend of mine mailed me few yrs back.
A mouse looked through a crack in the wall to see the farmer and his wife opening a package; what food might it contain?  He was aghast to discover that it was a mouse trap! Retreating to the farmyard, the mouse proclaimed the warning, "There is a mouse trap in the house, there is a mouse trap in the house." The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head and said, "Mr. Mouse, I can tell you this is a grave concern to you, but it is of no consequence to me; I cannot be bothered by it." The mouse turned to the pig and told him, "There is a mouse trap in the house."

"I am so very sorry Mr. Mouse," sympathized the pig, "but there is nothing I can do about it but pray; be assured that you are in my prayers."
The mouse turned to the cow, who replied, "Like wow, Mr. Mouse, a mouse trap; am I in grave danger, Duh?"  So the mouse returned to the house, head down and dejected to face the farmer's mouse trap alone.

That very night a sound was heard throughout the house, like the sound of a mouse trap catching its prey. The farmer's wife rushed to see what was caught.

In the darkness, she did not see that it was a venomous snake whose tail the trap had caught.

The snake bit the farmer's wife. The farmer rushed her to the hospital. She returned home with a fever. Now everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the farmyard for the soup's main ingredient.

His wife's sickness continued so that friends and neighbors came to sit with her around the clock. To feed them, the farmer butchered the pig.

The farmer's wife did not get well, in fact, she died, and so many people came for her funeral the farmer had the cow slaughtered to provide meat for all of them to eat.

So the next time you hear that someone is facing a problem and think that it does not concern you, remember that when the least of us is threatened, we are all at risk.


Monday, November 7, 2011

How many pairs of slippers do one need to survive?

Today morning was like a mess as usual. I was running here and there to finish all the household things and then to get ready for work on time! 
Then suddenly my maid came in the room and called me… Since I was in a hurry, I looked at her and gestured to say fast. She just said one sentence which made me stood where I was and made me forgot everything else.
She said “Amma, do you have a pair of spare chappals!” I was little stunned at the question. Before I could say anything, she just explained that she went to a temple yesterday and lost her slippers there.

Actually I was not looking out for this answer because the question in my mind was not that how come she lost her slippers. The thing I wanted to know was “Did she come bare feet to work today?” and “doesn't she have one more pair of slippers?” I was worried because I know her house was as far as around 9-10 kms from ours…from where she has to cross a railway line as well which is offcourse full of stones and all. I couldn’t even imagine that someone could walk so much distance bare feet!

I asked her the same questions and she answered “yes” to former one and “No” to the later one! I was stunned! I was sad! I was depressed! But I dint show any of these feelings to her because I believe showing sympathy to someone is equal to making fun of his/her situation! I hate to sympathize to somebody and just hate when someone does the same to me!

Anyways, I gave her 2 pair of slippers and asked her not to walk bare feet ever again…
Once she went off, I sat there on the bed for 5mins and kept on thinking about the struggle which these people have to go through. We crib about small small things which we have to face sometimes in our lives. Think about these people who have to face hardships every day, every hour! And even then they don’t crib. They smile and take life as it comesJ
I was thinking that almost every woman of middle class (being specific here) would for sure, owns atleast 10 pairs of footwear. Think about lower class. They hardly own a pair and that too because its something which is a necessity in life! Else they would abort this as well the same way they do with many other luxuries!
I felt bad. i actually do not have words to describe what I felt at that time, infact what I am feeling right now as well!
But I took my piece of learning from this incident. We should not crib at every small thing happening with us. We should smile and just let it go thinking this is just another small situation which we have to face in this huge journey called life. We should thank God for not making us fall into some bigger problem! And never try to copy people, who are above you, just look at them who are below you. and you will surely feel relieved and happy!
Keep smiling alwaz!

RIP the real Heroes!

I am sure everyone would have read about the horrifying incident of the death of 2 young boys who had to pay the huge price of their lives for saving the dignity of the girls in their group! I am sure everybody would have felt a sort of rage against the monsters who so mercilessly took life of 2 people! But the worst were those shameless spectators who stood there and dared to see the whole thing happening in front of their eyes and dint do anything. SAD! Still nothing has changed… We are still the same timid and apprehensive society! But these spectators, why do they forget that the same can happen to their children as well!

RIP Keenan Santos and Reuben Fernandez! You guys are the real heroes!!
Below is an article about Keenan’s Girlfriend describing the whole incident! After reading it, I had tears in my eyes, anger in my mind and enormous pain in my heart! Wish we could change our society, wish those monsters get a lifetime sentence and not come out of jail on bail as in most of the cases!

Friday, November 4, 2011

Wear your success and confidence like a T-Shirt and not a Tuxedo!

I was reading an interview of Priyanka Chopra in one of the magazines the other day and there was one thing which she said and which captivated my mind immediately and frankly, I do not remember anything from that interview apart from that one thing!

To some ques, she replied “Wear your success and confidence like a T-Shirt and not like a tuxedo!!!”
Wowww… what a saying and how true… If you can carry your success in a subtle and a causal way, nothing like it… But that’s an art! Believe me! Carrying your success in a positive and a natural way is really not easy! I mean its like being flamboyant but in a natural way! But the problem here is presenting this flamboyancy into a natural way sans attitude which most of the people, unfortunately are incapable of doing!

Ahhhh…. And great are the people who sometimes cross limits of showing off! They just love to show off and cant live without it: They show off their wealth, their status, their success and some people are even much horrible! They love to show off their brands: of clothes, watches, shoes, goggles etc. and rather than looking classy, they look cheap, stupid and dumb! I am sure everyone would have crossed their ways with such people at one or the other point of life!

And worst is such people derive a sort of happiness from this pretentious act! They waste their time and energy in simply presenting their affluence and proving themselves superior to others based on materialistic things, which is so wrong! I mean others have nothing to do what brand you are wearing, rather they have something to do with if you are wearing a smile or not!

Others can love you for what you are but they can never love you for what you have!
So, wear your success and confidence like a T-Shirt and not a Tuxedo!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Value has a value only if its value is valued

Read an amazing piece today, sent by one of my friend! Copying it:
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a 500 Rs note.
In the room of 200, he asked “Who would like this Rs 500 note?” Hand started going up. He said : I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this” He proceeded to crumple the note up.
He then asked, “Who still wants it?”
Still the hands were up in the air. “Well,” he replied,” What if I do this?” And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. “Now who stills wants it?” He asked
Still the hands went into the air. “My friends, you all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth Rs 500/-. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that came our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.”
You are special. Don’t ever forget it! Never let yesterday’s disappointments overshadow tomorrow’s dreams.
“Value has a value only if its value is valued”
When I read the first 2 paragraphs, I made a presumption that in the end the speaker will tear off the note and ask if anybody wants it then but the situation of tearing off the note dint ensueL I thought may be this wouldn’t have been relevant to the message which the writer wants to passJ
Anyways, I conveyed the same thing to my friend who had sent me this mail. And he answered my doubt with such a rational and valid explanation!
He said that if the speaker would have torn off the note and would have asked people if somebody wants it then obviously nobody would have said yes because after getting torn off, its value would have completely diminished! But before that whatever you do with the note, its value remains the same!
Now, same apply to people as well. Tearing of the note is like death of human. Before death may whatever happens to you, may whatever you go through, your value never goes down. Only and only death can erase your value with the body!
Keep smiling alwazzzzzzzz…….. and remember your are valuable forever.

Being lonely: worst thing that can happen?

Ahhhh… writing after almost a month! Feeling little bad, little guilty and little stupid for not doing something I love doing! But I certainly have logical reasons to defend myself. Anyways, that’s a different story.

The story for which I am back to writing today is that I am home alone! Yeah, my family had gone to Jaipur and I am left here at home all alone by myself. Today is the 3rd day and I feel miserable!

I know it will be so hard for anybody to believe if I tell I haven’t eaten anything in last 2 days. I have just been feeding my stomach with tea and biscuits occasionally. I have been sleeping at 5 am in the morning and that too not because I feel sleepy because my body demands that! I am somebody who loves to talk, and I feel miserable because there is nobody with me to talk! It feels terrible! Believe me! I guess, being lonely is the worst thing that can happen to a person. Its so so hard to eat, sleep, smile, and do anything alone! I hateeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee it!!!! Just hate it……………. And the worst is when your friends are busy, its makes you feel more terrible…huhhh?
Why is it so? Don’t know but I terribly miss my family…

When it was decided that I wouldn’t be going to Jaipur, frankly I thought its ok, I will get some time to spend with myself… and moreover, I have so many friends that they will never let me feel alone! But I was so so wrong. There is such a big difference between friends and family… If you would have read my previous blogs, you would have known that I am somebody who really believes in friends, in friendship… I love all my friends because I think each one of them have their own contribution in what I am… I am a strong believer of the fact that one cannot live without friends!

But still, what family can do, friends can never do that and guess, its not vice versa…
Anyways, that’s all for now… really cant say and shouldn’t say anything more than this…

Just want my husband to be back!:) and make me smile again! Ahhhhhh… there are more 5 days to go to be alone: F.I.V.E… All i can tell myself for now is Keep smiling!!!:(

'Satyug' Mahabharata VS 'Kalyug' Mahabharata

Yesterday me and my husband were watching news and guess what was coming: the same old politics, the fight between Nation and corruption! Not me, guess everybody is fed up… and suddenly my husband commented that “Doesn’t it all looks like Mahabharata!”

I was like yeahhh, actually!
And then as usual, my mind started working on how and who in different politicians fit in what role of Mahabharata. It was little tough but I somehow managed to draw a reasonable diagonal between the two!

Ok, lets start the comparison. So we will discuss the first and the most important character of this great Epic: Dharatrastra! Now guess who amongst all our capable politicians matches the character of this this blind king? Ahhhhh….. According to me, its none other than Sonia Gandhi! Yes, just think about it for 2 mins and you will definitely be able to create a strong bridge between the two! Well, here I will just say that Dharatrashtra was blinded by birth and Sonia Gandhi has been blinded due to power! But both are blinded in the love of their sons!And just doesn’t care about anybody in front of their son’s future and dream!
2nd Character in Mahabharat, not very important but still who has a role to play and without which Mahabharata wouldn’t have been what its now! And its Gandhari: Dhratrastra’s wife! She had blinded herself because she wanted to go through the same pain which her husband was going through. So, guess this character can very well be played by Mr Manmohan singh who has made himself blind because of his highness: Madam Sonia Gandhi! Do I need to say anything more?

3rd main character of Mahabharata is Shakuni. There was only one Shakuni in Mahabharata, but here there are uncountable Shakunis and yes, our new age Shakunis are much cleverer than our old witty and sharp Shakuni! But still if I have to name one then guess it will be any one of our cabinet ministers.

4rd character which comes in line is Duryodhana. Now, again its so so difficult to name any one of our great politicians which matches to the greatest negative character of this great Epic. I mean now come on, if I say Kalmadi matches to Dhuryodhana, will not Raja feel bad? Because even he had given his best to bring bring our India’s honor down… The same way Dhuryodhan did with Draupdi in front of everyone!
When anyone of them takes the role of Duryodhan, the rest of our leaders automatically start playing the role of other 99 brothers of him.

Now you would be thinking what actually Rahul Gandhi represents to! Well, guess he represents to nothing, nothing at all! No character in Mahabharata has been so incapable, so useless, so ineffective as our great Amul baba!
So, this was the story of Kaurvas…

I really do not have the competence to search the people who can match to the characters of Pandavas. Sorry, guess nobody so capable is there around. May be in future we will get our pandavas.

But yes I definitely know who plays the role of Draupadi whose clothes were torn off in public by Dhuryodhan… Its no doubt our country! Its being ripped off almost every min, every sec by these selfish leaders who think that they have won this land and they can do whatever they want to do with it! The same way Kauravas won Draupdi from pandavas and thought her to be their property!
But ok lets take a small take on Pandavas as well… In the current situation, the place of Pandavas can be taken by Arvind Khejriwal and team. And may be Sri Krishna who was a guider in Mahabharata can be Anna Hazare!!

So, guess we all who are witnessing this whole episode of corruption, dishonesty and fraud in our government can claim that we have been viewers of the Mahabharta of Kalyug! What say???
Anyways, keep smiling and lets see what comes next? Who wins and who gets defeated at the end. There is only and only one concern that in real Mahabharata many innocent people lost their lives. Hope it doesn’t happen in our Mahabharata…