Tuesday, December 20, 2011

My first Tattoo:)

 I really want to write about my experience on getting a permanent tattooJ

I wanted a tattoo since long because of many reasons. But the main reason was that I saw a tattoo on the actress’s ankle in the song from the movie Namesake, which is called “ye mera deewanapan hai”.! I was so fascinated by seeing that… It looked so stylish, so marvelous! Since then I wanted to have it…

But then few of my friends said that a tattoo is not worth the pain you take while putting that… some said it spoils your skin and start looking ugly after sometime! So after listening to all these things, I dropped the idea but then somewhere inside me I really wanted to have one!

Then last week, out of the blue this weird feeling of having a tattoo again emerged in my head… I spoke to few of my friends and they all were really negative about it. All of them told me about the pain. One even said that the pain is like as if lacs of injections are being injected in your body and that too at one single point of time… other said its like drilling machine making a hole in your skin! I was so petrified after listening to all this! One friend of mine even said that it is not something which good girls should put. Its shows indecency! I was like what? Tattoo shows indecency… I couldn’t stop laughing at such a conventional thinking of few people! They judge whether a girl is bad or good on the basis of if she has a tattoo or not… BTW, I could never ever understand the definition of a good and a bad girl… Though it’s a different story… But when this topic has aroused, I can’t stop myself from mentioning a quotation here which goes like this “Good girls are those bad girls who never get caught”…

Anyways, back to my tattoo story! So then I decided on Friday evening that I am going to put a tattoo whatever it takes. I took an appointment from a well known tattoo artist. Then we went to him on Sunday! Believe me, while selecting the design, a fight was going on in my mind that whether I should do it or not. I was in doubt! Somehow I selected the design and he asked us to wait outside. All the time sitting outside I was thinking to run away from there. I was thinking what am I doing and for what? Why do I want to take so much pain? And while all this was going on in my mind, the tattoo artist called us in. Believe me, my heart started beating harder. Then I saw the needle which he was about to use. I cannot explain what I felt after seeing that. I wanted to run away! I dint wanted that needle to drill down in my skin and that too not for 1or 2 mins but for good 20-25 mins!

I closed my eyes and decided not do see anything, the design, the scary machine, the needles, the colors and nothing at all… But for how long a person can keep the eyes closed.

And then I felt the first touch of that terrifying device on my skin and I dint knew how to react. I mean, it wasn’t that much pain that I should scream but it wasn’t even so less that I should have remained expressionless! It was a completely different feeling. Yes, there was pain, I can’t deny but not that much as people described. The whole event was no doubt painful but still, there was something which kept me still and calm! May be the hope of seeing a beautiful design on my body! But the most horrible thing in this whole incident was not pain, it was the weird sound of that instrument. Arggghhh… it was so annoying. It was exactly like a drilling machine!

And by the end of 20-25 mins, I was completely exhausted of taking the horrible pain. But then, after seeing a beautiful angel on my ankle, my all exhaustion just passed away! I was superbly happy. I cannot describe that feeling in words and believe me, it is something which is definitely worth the pain I took for it. It is one of my prized possessionJ and I am so proud of itJ

And yes, I really wanna thank my hubby because he was there for me the whole time!! He made me believe that I can go for it… Even while the designing of the tattoo and I was in pain, he was trying to make me smile all throughJ He took a magazine and was showing me the pictures of the actresses and was asking me how her dress, see what she wore and all because he knows I love to see all that stuffJ muaah to him for standing next to meJ

And yes, let me make one more thing clear here that people told me before that it pains terribly for 10-15 days after you put a tattoo but my experience is that pain is something which is unthinkable. I cant even feel that I had done something on my ankle. Its so so normal!!! There is no pain, no itching at all!

And after doing this, I took learning for myself that do not assume anything impossible by just listening to some stories. Ignore all the stories, go ahead, do what you want to do, and then shape up your opinion for the thing based on your own experience! And believe me it will be so different from what you would have heard about it!!

And now I want to do all those things of which I am really scared of, learning swimming being on priority!!

Keep smiling alwaz!!

Monday, December 19, 2011

Whats goin on?

Wrote the below post on 10th of this month but just dint get time to post it!! Bad on my part:(
Posting it today with a promise that will post all the blogs on time going forward because delays really make me feel so guilty!!

There have been so much going around in our country at this moment majorly in the 2 most important or rather talked about fields i.e. politics, entertainment!
In Entertainment, Vidya Balan had sizzled everyone by her sizzling performance in Dirty Picture. She received a hell lot of praise from top bollywood people. And I guess, she also deserves it.. I mean guess she is the most versatile actor in our film industry and I don’t think or see anything wrong in the way she exposed. Guess, that was the demand of the script! and also, she just dint only expose, she even gave an applauding performance! We all would have witnessed many bollywood movies in which there is only and only exposure and no performance! I have seen people criticizing her… I really don’t know when will our society get rid of hypocritical thoughts! Hats off to her for being successful in challenging a prudish society’s obsolete and antiquated rules.

2nd most important topic which is like topping the charts is Veena Malik’s nude shoot for FHM… I don’t know why do media give so much leverage to such publicity hungers like Veena malik, poonam pandey! These people are all together from a different genre! I mean they just and just need publicity may be at any cost… which is so weird! And I believe this whole drama had been plotted by VM and FHM magazine together to get the hype which our stupid media had already given them! FHM would have surely sold few extra issues and for VM, she has been able to create the stir which she wanted before her program “Swamvar” starts! Dear media, plz stop wasting the valuable space in your newspapers and websites on these idiotic people!
And the 3rd most spoken thing was “Why this Kolaveri di?” … I think there is no need for me to say anything else… everyone knows the answer of this ques “Why this Kolaveri di, Kolaveri di, Kolaveri di?”

Ok, enough of entertainment. Lets go to the hot topics in Politics…
First would be no doubt Kapil Sibal who has done such a lousy and stupid act of trying to preach Indians the lessons on things that are morally unacceptable! Why was he not concerned about provocative material or the abuse and misuse of social networking sites before? This act of KS just looks like one more act to please Madam… Guess KS or rather congress is scared of the stir or the revolutions which these social sites are capable to generating these days. But what do they think of themselves? Somebody plz tell them we are living in democracy and ask them not to try to be dictatorial or else, the repercussions can really be bad, something which this party could have never imagined! The youth of today is not at all ready to take any sort of nonsense from anybody. And it is almost impossible to impose your oppressive rules on them! And to Ms. SG, plz don’t try to walk on the step of your mom in law! She had the capability to take the fire, you lack in that big time! So, be in your limits and behave like the servants of the people of the country and not like bloody kings!

Second most spoken topic recently was the slap imbedded on Sharad pawar!!! It was so unbelievable… I mean have anybody would have thought that a common man will ever be able to slap any of our union ministers! No, never… But this whole incident made Harvinder singh a hero for the youth. People were going gaga over his name and were full of ecstacy to know the recipient of the slap. Forget the rightness and wrongness of Harvinder’s action. I mean yes it was uncivil and undemocratic  and blah blah but for now, just look @ the response this mango man has got! So, our political parties should understand this fact that they are preparing the young India for a new revolution in which the defeat is for sure, gonna be theirs!
And the recent is Anna Hazare’s agitation again… which is no doubt commendable! I appreciate the way this man had been stuck to his demands and promises! His courage couldn’t come down despite of many attacks from the Govt on him and his team but this man is here again… Hats off to him and may you be the winner because your victory is gonna be the victory of whole India and the Indians! So, proud of you…

So this is all about going around us... Lets see what future brings for us:)
Keep smilin alwaz:)

Monday, December 5, 2011

Will our Indian Organizations change???

I heard a very humorous and amusing definition of a ‘leader’ which I really can’t stop myself from sharing with everyone!!!… And yeah, before going ahead let me give you a brief about the person who quoted the definition… He is somebody who himself is a leader and in fact, is at a very good position with an esteemed firm! And which means he should be somebody who should be an idol for everyone.

Anyways, lets get back to the definition :D…Well, according to him “A true leader is the one who comes early and leaves late from office”… Feel like laughing at this conventional thinking? Everybody in that meeting, where this was declared felt the same but obviously, had to control themselves for the sake of their jobs!! And had to clap and applause to show the great speaker that how great he and his thoughts actually are!
But I really don’t know when are Indian firms going to change this old and stupid philosophy and thinking which have completely rotted off and has become so decayed that it literally has started stinking! But still, these people don’t want to leave this aged opinion… and that’s how they have created a kind of generation gap!

I mean is it the mistake of the new generation that they are smart, they have the capability to finish off their work in the given time, they believe in enjoying life other than office, job is not the ONLY priority for them? Is it their mistake that they hate to sit in office just for showing off to their boss that they are hard working??
No, none of the above is a crime or is wrong then why does a person’s capability is not judged by the quality of his work but on the quantity of hours he sits in office?

This kind of thinking of the leaders at work simply kills the enthusiasm of youngsters, it simply mitigates the energy and the passion which the freshers brings with them to the firm!
On the contrary, if you look at the working style of foreign firms, its completely reversed… People have an independence to come and leave whenever they want to. The only condition is they should just finish off the work allotted to them or for which they are responsible for. This kind of work environment not only makes a person feel independent but also accountable! I have really seen a huge difference in the people worked in the former and later work environment!

Second problem with our organizations is that management or seniors do not want to listen to juniors because according to them they lack experience. This thought is so bizarre! These firms run on few old and rotten assumptions and one of them is “Experience brings knowledge and the capability of taking right decisions” I know it is correct to a great extent but it doesn’t mean that people with less experience lack in these 2 things… Does it???

I would want to end this topic not on my conclusion this time but on the things said by a great man Mr. Abdul Kalam in his autobiography “Wings of Fire”
On Organization  (pg 25)::

What makes life in Indian Organizations difficult is the widespread prevalence of this very contemptuous pride. It stops us from listening to our juniors, subordinates and people down the line. You cannot expect a person to deliver results if you humiliate him, nor can you expect him to be creative if you abuse him or despise him. The line between firmness and harshness, between strong leadership and bullying, between discipline and vindictiveness is very fine, but it has to be drawn. Unfortunately, the only line prominently drawn in our country today is between the ‘heroes’ and the ‘zeros’. On one side are a few hundred ‘heroes’ keeping nine hundred and fifty million people down on the other side. This situation has to be changed.

On Leadership Competencies and Staffing (pg 78)

What makes a productive Leader ? In my opinion, a productive leader must be very competent in staffing. He should continually introduce new blood into the organization. He must be adept at dealing with problems and new concepts. The problems encountered by an R&D Organization typically involve trade-offs among a wide variety of known and unknown parameters. Skill in handling these complex entities is important in achieving high productivity. The leader must be capable of instilling enthusiasm in his team. He should give appropriate credit where it is due; praise publicly, but criticize privately.

I hope the leaders in our Indian Firms understand the above said and try to bring in the change which is really due from a long time now…