Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Bitching... Lay it to rest!


“How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.”

― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free


Was having a chai-time discussion with a bunch of friends few days back. When suddenly the whole topic got diverted towards a girl, who used to be our colleague long back.

Eventually all of us started talking about her. emmm... Ok, we started gossiping about her! Ok fine people!!! Relax! I admit, we started bitching about her!!! Grrr... I hate this word so much... But then, everyone gets caught into this 'bitchy' word's trap some or the other time! You cant escape. Phewww...

Anyways, getting back to the gossiping bitching about that colleague, initially the discussion went on in a very healthy way. We all were enjoying till it got diverted and took a turn towards seriousness! We started discussing about what all nonsense she did and how much others got affected by her. The discussion started becoming grave and emotional with every passing comment. We all started feeling emotionally devastated, thinking about all the harm that female did to few of us.

But then, I realized and tried to scrutinize what were we upto? Nothing much, but just spoiling our own get-together, our own moods. Was this discussion even affecting the person in concern in anyway? No!!! She might be enjoying and having fun sitting somewhere in some part of the world, hardly bothered about what she did to others and here, all of us (like a bunch of dumbos), were ready to sacrifice our good time for the heck of discussing her deeds and bitching about her!!!

Why? Guess, all the fault doesn't lay on us! Its just so much hard-wired into our system. We, specially women get so hyper thinking about others that we, go to any extent to dig the grave of their doings, discussing about it over and over again, spoiling our own moods and senses, torturing our own emotions! And this is what the problem is!

Now, the most important question, cant it be changed? Off course it can be! Very easily. All you need to do is to put a conscious effort towards it. Promise yourself that you would never ever bitch about anyone. Talking and discussing about someone is completely ok, afterall we are all humans and this is one of the human traits. But it is just fine till the extent it fuels your rather, insipid life! The moment these discussions start transforming into horrible conversations, which reciprocates in terms of  invoking any sort of negative emotion in you like hate, anger, jealousy etc, just consciously stop! Stop, breathe, relax and just excuse yourself from that conversation. And believe me, you will feel so much better and happy! You will feel as if you saved yourself from one huge tsunami (of emotions)

Guys, draw a line, where you should stop thinking, talking or discussing about any other person! In short, just reduce your curiosity to talk about others. And you will be able to eliminate one negative part from your life so easily.

Bitching, ahhhh... lay it to rest now!

Be happy, keep smiling alwaaayyyssss...:)

 “Allow enemies their space to hate; they will destroy themselves in the process.” ― Lisa Du

Don't let yourself become an eg of being an enemy in the above mentioned quote! Its clear who is going to benefit by that:)


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