Yesterday I was having a discussion with one of my friends on a very common topic which is in fashion these days and which has also kind of become an obsession for everyone these days. Rather I should say I don't know why but everyone seems to be going gaga over it, whether they understand it or not (Really!!!). Anyways, the topic was 'equality' discrepancies between males and females in our society.
Now during the discussion, my friend asked me with full emotions in her voice that why are we not treated equal to men, even when we can do all the tasks equally good. Now, I have absolutely no problem with fighting for gender equality, we should and we need to... but I have serious issues with the weird and absurd reasons that we give to prove ourselves right, like "we (women) can do all the things that men can do", "we are equally good to men in every task" and all that
No doubt, we are...
But then let's think about all the hows and whats and buts and ifs and most importantly, why's. I mean Why, we women are so desperate to be called and declared equal to the other sex? What's the need? Why do we have to scream and shout and tell everyone that we are 'equally' good as men in doing every task that they do? Why?
I, somehow believe that we are much better than them in many other tasks, that they can't even think of doing. Why are we running behind proving ourselves equal to men in other stuff and works, leaving the amazing plethora of tasks that we are experts in, and men can't even come close to us in performing those!
And moreover, we are built differently by Nature itself. Aren't we? Both physically and mentally! Women weren't created to do everything that men can do. They were, in fact created to do everything a man can't do.
We both have our own set of strengths and weaknesses, and why the hell then, we are so much desperate to be equal to them?
And BTW, if research is to be believed then, there are some notable differences between the way our brains works as well, like:
The brain areas that control aggression and anger are larger in women than in men, which may account for some degree in larger male rates of violence.
Women handle stress better than men.
When it comes to intelligence, there are more male than female outliers. Girls, don't boil your blood. It just means that Male IQ has greater variance than female IQ; in other words, while females cluster toward the middle, more males occupy the extreme high and low ends on the intelligence scale.
Women are more likely to suffer from mood disorders.
Women feel more pain, but we all knew that already, too.
The female brain is geared slightly more toward language.
The male brain is geared slightly more toward math.
Women are purported to have better communication skills and emotional intelligence than men. Women tend to be group-oriented, and apt to seek solutions by talking through issues.
Women are more emotional, but we all knew that already.
These are just very few examples from a large list of differences that both sexes have. And these differences show very clearly that we, both the sexes work according to our brains. Women are good in certain things and men are good in other departments. Big deal! We score high at some places and they score in other places. Win-Win situation. Why do we have to hijack their list and prove a pro in that as well? Why? And you know something, we are losing our individuality, our uniqueness in this thrust.
Not just mentally, even physically, we women are so different. Its us, on whom lays the responsibility of giving birth to the new lives. Which means somewhere physically, our bodies are more endurable, much more stronger. Isn't that so incredible and beautiful? Isn't that something so special. And instead of being proud of that, we waste our time and energies in pondering about why and how and what needs to be done to prove ourselves equal to men. Again, why?
When nature itself has given us so many special characteristics and qualities to cherish for, then why are we so eager to bring ourselves down? Why don't we take pleasure in those and admire them and feel proud and happy about us: The Women.
PS. Trust me. Its great to be a Woman. And feel proud about it...
PPS. I read something beautiful, somewhere on FB:
Our generation is becoming so busy trying to prove that women can do what men can do that women are losing their uniqueness...
Isn't that so true?