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Problems + Solutions = Happiness!! Problems + tensions = More Problems!

I have observed many times that most of us always keep on cribbing, crying and complaining about the troubles and problems which life throws at us, however small or big they are. We hate every damn thing which makes us uncomfortable. And this is what is the defination of problems. Something which tries to drag us out of our comfort zone! And this is simply something we abhor! Most of us love to remain in the safe comfortable zone which we create around us which is actually just a mirage! I know, thats a human tendency to an extent! But still, should'nt we try and change it?

Would love to mention one of my fav quotes here by Mario Andretti, "If everything seems under control, you're just not going fast enough"

There are 2 things: 1. One should'nt be scared of problems because they are a part and parcel of life and they will come to you however hard you try to run away from them and 2. The time and energy we waste in cribbing and crying over the problems, we should dedicate the same in finding the solutions to them! Guess that would be a productive use of one's time and energy and that might even lead to solution and happiness. While on the other hand, cribbing always leads to tensions, depression, anger and stress which further gives birth to many other issues in life!

And also I believe that cribbing and crying are the signs of giving up. They are indeed the signs of weakness! And giving up and displaying your weakness are the worst things one can do with himself!
 
It’s a fact that life is full of troubles, hurdles etc but that is what life is meant forJ Isn’t it? Each and every person on this planet has to go through some or the other problem irrespective of the count of their wealth on the affluence barometer. Also, whenever any such incident happens rather than being gloomy and poignant, just think about people who are below you! For whom each and every single day of life is a struggle. For you, days with problems would be rare. For them, Days without problems is rare! Now compare yourself with them… And you will certainly feel contented!
And there is a solution to anything and everything in this world… You just have to concentrate and think about it rather than getting panicked by thinking and cribbing about the problem…

There is a small story which I would love to share:

Once a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried badly for few hrs for escape while the farmer tried to figure out what to do. But when he couldn’t think of any solution, he decided to let it go! Anyways, the animal was old, and even the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey, thought the farmer. He, then invited few of his neighbors & they all took hold of their spades and began to shovel dirt into the well. Initially when the donkey realized what was happening, it started crying dreadfully. But then, to everyone's astonishment he quieted down. But they continued putting dirt! A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down into the well. He was simply surprised at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit Donkey’s back, it  was doing something amazing. It kept on shaking it off and took a step up. As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would repeat the same. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well, and happily trotted off!

Instead of finding a solution, if the donkey would have continued to howl, scream and cry then may be his howls would have been silenced down by its death only! But it took another wayJ and came out of the problem successfully…

Always remember, life is definitely going to shovel dirt at you, all kinds of dirt! The trick to get out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.

There is a very famous quote by Rabindranath Tagore, “You can't cross the sea merely by standing and staring at the water”

Keep smiling alwaysJ

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